Dealing with Missed Expectations

2020 was rough, y’all. While COVID-19 slowed many of us down, it didn’t stop us. It’s been a while, but we’re very excited to be back and starting the new year off with another season!

Pops has been itching to get back in front of the microphone and the warmth of the studio. We’ve talked about so many interesting topics and have so many more new ones to delve into. Thanks so much for rocking with us over the past two seasons. We’re only getting bigger and better, and your support means the world to us.

To kick things off, we’re picking up right where we left off last season. In our season 2 finale, Pops asked me what he could have done differently or better as a father. So in today’s episode, we really open up the doors of communication: I explain how he could’ve shown up better for me as a child and adult, and he explains his mindset and thought process then and now.

You’ll hear him talk about an incident when I was young where he still thought more selfishly. He acknowledges past and even current mistakes that could’ve created a bigger issue between us. We discuss blending families through marriage, parenting differences among generations (including a throwback to the slave days), what his own parents could’ve done better for him growing up, and how it all affected his own parental and romantic relationship skills as an adult.

This episode brings us back to what the show’s really all about–real father-daughter talk. We hope you enjoy what you hear today. If you do, let other people know by writing us a review and rating our podcast on Apple with five stars. And if you haven’t already, make sure you hit the subscribe button so you won’t miss a single episode!

In this episode:

[02:32] – Brittney wants to address some questions that came up in the season 2 finale

[04:08] – Brittney’s super curious to hear Pops’ answer to one thing they’ve never discussed.

[05:53] – Pops talks about when he wasn’t thinking clearly and allowed things to happen that could’ve driven a wedge between him and his kids.

[07:24] – If you have kids, then your kids are mirroring the person you are too.

[08:42] – Brittney accepts Pops’ apology and remembers being flabbergasted about his wedding taking place so close to her 12th birthday.

[10:31] – As a proponent of healthy blended families, Brittney insists on having a good relationship with any kids of the person you’re dating.

[11:28] – Parents don’t always think about how their kids feel about this situation. They just jump in and start making all these plans based on their own happiness.

[13:14] – Here’s what Pops sees as the more important thing to consider when you have kids and are in the dating game.

[15:22] – A few times in the past (and even in the present), Pops hasn’t followed through after setting an expectation.

[17:19] – While blaming this year on COVID, Pops acknowledges his tendency to not follow through sometimes.

[19:40] – Brittney reveals what triggers her in relationships. She can’t stand it when the man she’s dating does this.

[21:11]- Sometimes, people feel if they ignore something, others around them will too. Not all people are like that, though.

[23:27] – Follow-through is especially important for women. They’ll feel like you don’t care because women feel love through connection and reassurance.

[25:51] – Brittney reminds us that father-daughter relationships shape what daughters look for in and expect from other men in their lives.

[26:43] – Has Pops thought about this for himself concerning his own parents? Here’s what he wished they could’ve done better for him.

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