We love talking to other women about their relationships with their fathers and how those relationships impact their lives. In this episode, we have a special guest and fellow Howard University alumna: Ms. Reid of DaaamDaddy.com and The Discussion Room podcast.
Ms. Reid is the product of teen parents and for years thought that being smart, happy, and social meant exemption from suffering any daddy issues. However, being both a teacher and a storyteller, she saw herself more and more in the youth she encountered in the educational field, hurting from relationships they never had and watching them fail with their fathers.
Then one day, she was hit with the realization that she’d buried some issues with her birth father and didn’t recognize other issues, because they didn’t come in a form society told her to expect. Thanks to that epiphany, the types of stories she told changed and her blog was born!
Her platform serves as a place where daddy issues drive discussions because Ms. Reid feels that these stories are bigger than her. She hopes others read them and release some of their own hurt, call out their own behavior, hold men in their lives accountable, and ultimately feel inspired to write their own stories to spark much-needed conversations.
With that in mind…today, Ms. Reid discusses the specific issues she’s faced with her biological father (and other father figures) in recent years. We cover how difficult it can be to stop communication with your father altogether, what it’s like to have a father who denies you and how to heal and recover from that, and how daddy issues contribute to trust issues all-around.
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In this episode:
[02:19] – Brittney welcomes Ms. Reid to the show. She was one of this podcast’s first listeners.
[03:16] – How does Ms. Reid define her relationship with her father figures? This is still a work-in-progress with her biological father.
[05:42] – Brittney asks Ms. Reid to further clarify the communication between her and her birth father.
[06:39] – At 17, Ms. Reid got a court letter in the mail that no child wants to read. Hear the heartbreaking message it conveyed.
[08:34] – Ms. Reid describes a recent awkward incident that she felt like added insult to injury.
[09:45] – Despite it all, Ms. Reid did decide to initiate communication with her dad. Did that help her get to the root of their disconnect?
[11:35] – Ms. Reid discusses the challenging romantic relationship that triggered her daddy issues and what caused her to reach out to him by phone.
[13:48] – Everything happening for a reason is an idea that’s come up on this podcast previously. Brittney asks for Pops’ perspective on this, as it relates to Ms. Reid’s story.
[16:31] – Even though he’s never been incarcerated, Pops knows that it can change a person. He says Ms. Reid’s dad might benefit from something like counseling.
[18:03] – Pops acknowledges the examples of growth Ms. Reid’s father has already shown.
[20:04] – In the past, for women who want to get something across to their dad, Pops has recommended writing a letter.
[21:02] – Brittney asks Ms. Reid whether or not the trust between her and her birth father has changed or shifted in the last few years, as they’ve been trying to grow closer.
[22:54] – Hear the ironic response Ms. Reid received when she asked her father a few years ago what he wanted to do, work-wise.
[24:29] – Ms. Reid reveals that she put off telling her dad about her pregnancy for months. She didn’t share this publically and was very selective about who she told privately.
[26:55] -The most consistent father figure in Ms. Reid’s life is her uncle, so she wanted to tell him her news in person.
[28:13] – Ms. Reid tells us about the awkward reveal to her birth father. There wasn’t much discussion about it afterward.
[29:55] – In a tough spot due to financial circumstances, Ms. Reid recalls a surprisingly supportive conversation she had with her grandfather.
[31:36] – Brittney notes that it must be very interesting for a father to find out his daughter is pregnant. Pops, Brittney and Ms. Reid laugh at Pops’ quick reaction. He congratulates Ms. Reid on her pregnancy.
[33:31] – They say “it takes a village to raise a child.” Ms. Reid very much believes that she’s a product of such a village.
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